sahaj Marg

Ego- does it go?

Ego- does it go?

Joining the meditation Mission was a sequence of events in my life; everything, from the first 3 sittings to attending the satsangh; Bhandara fell into my lap in a very tailor made, comfortable way for me. The complete name of the Mission, its lineage nothing was known to me when I joined this system. I was in need of a respite and in search; I received this as a divine blessing. I accepted it gratefully, followed it dutifully and read voraciously to learn more and familiarize myself with the method the Guru and the tenets of the Mission.

Being a very dedicated and disciplined student I received many compliments from my preceptor and also had wonderful experiences during meditation the first few months. I was desperate to meet Master, my Guru about who I had only read for the last one month or so.

So, within a month I visited Chennai ashram wanting to see Master in person. My seeing Master in person is also a very strange sequence of events. I had gone to Chennai with big pipe dreams, armed with the permission letter from the zonal in charge; I also had brother Bhatter’s number for reference; push and pull. I was also told by everyone that new abhyaasi need not stand in any queue. Master simply goes up to them and meets them! I was kind of envisioning a state where Master would immediately call me, I would fall at his feet, seek his blessings and Lo, Behold! I would be a transformed person! I think my feet never touched the ground, I was high up somewhere in my own self created world where Master would come to me. I was the best abhyaasi, new abhyaasi, well educated too; Master would be more than happy to meet me!

The irony of the word Ego is that it has the word ‘go’ in it and yet it never goes. It only grows and the more one lives in this illusion of ‘I’ the more predominant is the Ego.  Such was my unfortunate state of mind when I went to meet my Guru for the first time.

The verity hit me rather badly; two days down the line, I was yet to get a glimpse of Master. I had spent the whole day sitting in front of the cottage. I sent in 3 chits or more I am not sure, and I had in my own urgency and desperation made calls to brother Bhatter, brother Satbir and to Shalini too! The children were getting weary and asking me to take them out, so I had packed them off to my cousin’s place casinomilate.info and spent the whole day in front of the cottage, sitting patiently waiting for Master to call me in.  By lunch time my thoughts took a plunge from the lofty ‘calling me in to personally meet me’ to a least let Him come out and I could have a glimpse of Him! That also I think was too much or too undeserving because Master did not venture out for two whole days! Which was rather unusual was what everyone voiced. The despondency of not being able to see him for 2 days; and I was to leave that very evening, I was a bag of mixed emotions. The other abhyasis waiting outside Master’s cottage kept telling me, “tell them you are a new abhyaasi, Master immediately calls in new abhyasis.”  Shalini gave me brother Bhatter’s number, asked me to speak to him, so that he can get me permission to go inside and see Master. I think, no; I am sure, I tried all my gimmicks and stunts that I could perceive and was told by everyone else. Nothing worked, He did not want to call me inside and I never got to meet Him in person. That is it, the sad truth.  So much for my lofty thoughts and bloated ego; got punctured and guttered in a flash. Master could not be bothered by people like me.

The evening I was to leave I began to despair; ‘Master, come out once, please, I beg of you. I will not run after you, bother you, talk to you, nothing, I just want to see you in person once’.  I did not want any personal introductions, I simply wanted a glimpse of that person about whom I had been reading for the last few months and who my Guru, my spiritual Guru is;  the guide who will light my path and show me the way. I was near tears, praying fervently, sitting in front of the cottage with a singular plea, ‘Master, please come out, just for a second, please.’

Finally, He did come out in the evening; He was on his golf cart being escorted to the medical center for His regular check up. The minute the cart exited the gate we were asked to queue up on either side of the road and greet Him or seek His blessings. I did what I was asked to do and my heart swelled up with many unspoken emotions. He barely glanced at me, not even a glance really and I involuntarily ran behind the golf cart following Him all the way to the medical center. Maybe when he comes out He will look at me properly, I can wish Him, I don’t know, many thoughts went and came and I just stood there in the crowd, waiting for Him to come out. On his return trip to the cottage also I ran behind the cart with the kids in tow, introducing the children to Him! He simply looked at me and blessed the children. He said nothing to me, He smiled at the kids blessed them with his walking stick, nothing for me, not even a glance or an acknowledgement, nothing at all! I was still happy that He has seen the kids and blessed them; that fleeting glance He threw in my direction was all that was my share and I had to do much better to be able to meet Him in person. I have never been able to meet Him or get a chance to speak to me up close till date, this is a wish unfulfilled till date.

I don’t know how to put it in exact terms because I don’t have the words to correctly describe my feelings. Even that small interlude with My Master and I was happy, relieved. I had grand dreams of personal audience and a VIP treatment for the much awaited new abhyaasi; and here I was thankful that I had seen Him. My Guru is seeing me always, am I able to see Him though? My bloated ego was so full of me then; and in the years to come I realized that I never ‘saw’ Him for a very long time.  That oft repeated statement of Babuji’s, ‘Many come to see me, but no one really sees Me.’ started to make sense to me after three years in the Mission.

The mission has helped me battle my ego and keep it in check to a great extent. The mission and the method show us the mirror everyday and give chances for self improvement.  I am sure it has not gone totally; E-go will go only when I-go. My prayer to My Master is to help me use this for my good and betterment as strength.

Jab Tak Hai Jaan–

Jab Tak Hai Jaan–

All my 5+ years in Sahaj Marg the most often repeated question by most of my friends is how to maintain the focus or momentum in a spiritual life which is totally riddled and driven by material challenges, aspirations and temptations.

I joined Sahaj Marg late in life; at an age where I had practically outgrown the material temptations and I was very parched, thirsty for spiritual growth. So focus and maintaining my momentum came naturally to me. This analogy below may help my friends understand and maintain the momentum or at least figure out what exactly they are seeking from Sahaj Marg and how their results are also reciprocal to their search.

Sahaj Marg is like any Hindi movie particularly Yash Chopra’s Movies. Most of his movies have one hero two lead ladies vying for his attention or one heroine and two men wooing her and winning her over!! Sahaj Marg also has only one Hero, My beloved Master, but the distractions are too many. Husband and wife are struggling and lost in the mire of worldly distractions or trying to understand one another in real life. The larger purpose of identifying the real Goal, the true hero never seems to come or is deferred to a later date. They keep squabbling amongst themselves and the path to the hero keeps growing distant and further away. The couple between themselves become the biggest distraction and fail to focus on the Hero together! A movie is 3 hour long and Sahaj Marg is for life, so the focus invariably gets shifted from time to time and they are beginning again and again after breaks and a short hiatus. So, Sahaj Marg is like a different release, afresh and new every time they revisit this road.

Secondly, most of us go to a movie for a reason, we like the cast, the director, storyline or anything else. And human nature is such that we look and enjoy only what we like, remember what we like, focus on what appeals to us. The director is the only person who is concerned about everything in the movie, story, cast, music, screenplay, cinematography and even the name of the movie! Whereas the audience picks and chooses some part of the movie to like, recollect and enjoy. Similarly in Sahaj Marg, Sahaj Marg is the whole movie! Being directed by Master Himself and the basic 10 steps laid out, morning meditation, evening cleaning and night prayer are the cast or the essential parts of this wonderful movie! To grasp the essence of this movie and live it to the fullest the whole movie needs to be understood and lived with. If we are doing only meditation then probably we like only one the lead cast of the movie, or if we are able to follow 5 steps of the 10 laid out we have grasped the music and yet to understand the lyrics of the other songs and their purpose in the movie!

Another comparison between Yash chopra movies and Sahaj Marg is most of the audience comes out remembering only what they went in to see in the first place! Like in ‘Jab tak hai jaan’ the three of us (My husband – for one lead lady, my daughter – for the Hero and I – for the songs and cinematography) went for a different reason and believe it or not we put the whole movie together in bits and pieces, combining our memory, when we narrated it to our son! Similarly Sahaj Marg, if we are happy doing only cleaning I have noticed that the steps always seem difficult and beyond reach. In case dairy writing is something unnatural; then it is invariably postponed and the last thing on the ‘to do list’. Like there is no harm in watching / assimilating ‘Jab Tak hai Jaan’ in bits and pieces, there is no harm in understanding/imbibing Sahaj Marg in parts. The core difference though is that a movie remembered or forgotten makes no difference, but the longer an abhyasi takes to follow this unique path in its totality the more the abhyasi is likely to lose. Sahaj Marg cannot be understood in parts, one have to immerse self in the whole movie, become Sahaj Marg, Manasa, vacha, karma, not just lead lady or a song and lyric!! The whole movie is imperative.

So, Sahaj Marg is a movie to be lived day in day out, in totality and lived to the fullest, jab tak hai jaan, Sahaj Marg onlyJ.  It is a movie worth a zillion yash chopra movies and more.