wake up dads

Through a daughter”s eyes

My sister”s daughter wrote a poem for her dad on his birthday. It was a straight from the heart writing, not at all fancy or rhyming, nothing. It’s just a few lines telling how she felt about her father and how she wished him to be for his own good!

Most dads today are visiting/guest daddies. Actually, maybe even our dad was a visiting dad. But we siblings were more in number, and between us and mother we did not miss our dad much. True? Most of my friends are 4-5 brother sister combination. And none of us remember much about dad spending time with us, taking time off to teach us or us noticing his absence and complaining about it.

India has changed dynamically in the last 3 decades. From predominantly joint family to nuclear family, only father earning member to both the parents working, from 3-5 children to 1-2 children has all happened in this last few decades. It has been one too many changes and too soon for us to be able to cope with.From our childhood to our adult parent life this has been the biggest change and all differences are because of these few changes. My This is strongly indicated by best-horoscope.com for this year. son also notices his dad”s absence and most of my counsel-lees have a word or two about the busy, independent, aloof life styles they seem to lead!

The poem was telling the father that it is good to be ambitious, get rich and successful in life. In the end though, none of these really mattered. She, the daughter, wanted him to be happy and do the things that made him happy even though they may not bring in world renown, money and riches. These things would bring in happiness which would last and the put smile back on his face which she rarely saw these days!She pointed out everything that her father was missing out on in his race to succeed in life! Very succinctly yet in a very unambiguous way she was talking on behalf of all the adolescents and to all dads out there!

Time gone will never comeback dads! Your corporate ladder and empires can be climbed and built but you will be a stranger to your kids. Unlike you, we are half in number and do not have too much company either. We spend our childhood alone in our nests; when the time for us to fly away comes you will be staying home, alone. In case you want the excuse of “This is all for them only!, a logic as a sop to your conscience, maybe you could think again. You earn much more than your parents and your progeny will definitely surpass you! You are not going back and staying at your ancestral home and your children will also follow their destiny and build a life elsewhere! You build an empire for them, which is of what value to them, they will never figure out, in this process you are missing out on the little time that God gave you to be with them, as a family, to know them and love them! Wake up dads, before they fly away from your nest.