Women empowerment – do we need it?

Women Empowered already

Ever wondered why every God has 2-4 hands and his consort or almost all the goddesses are seen to possess 8-10 hands? When you do the breakup of any feminine word the masculine word is in that word itself whereas the vice versa is impossible! For example, every woman has man, a female has a male, and a she has a he within the word itself, whereas the opposite is unimaginable. Tells us all a very serious tale, does it not? Women are embodiments of whatever they can conjure. They have the power to be what they wish to be and when they wish to be and how they wish to be!

A woman needs to know her role well and play it to the best of ability with understanding and discernment. There are many instances where the man has gone astray; the harm that comes to the family is revocable but a blundering woman has ruined the family irrevocably without any chances of salvage even. That is why Gods too very wisely took umbrage under their consorts and listened to them. History and mythology, both are replete with stories of woman causing the downfall and success of mankind, empires. Queen Kaykeyi is the catalyst in Ramayana; most of the crucial events in Mahabharata have either Kunti or Queen Draupadi behind the scenes. On the good side we have Savitri as the only woman who could bring back her husband from the jaws of death, and King Harishchandra’s wife who supported and stood by him throughout, his good days and bad days and lived his life uncomplainingly.

Till the recent past in our country; from birth to marriage parents taught girls how to play second fiddle and survive with equanimity in this male dominated society. They were educated and quipped to work in case such a need does come by, post marriage; else they had to be happy tending to the household. Once they got married the initial years are again a series of adjustments with the person you are married to and with the extended family also. Playing the good wife and daughter in law, women forget their individuality for a very long time to come. Children happen and motherhood plays a very dominant role. The woman or the individual self is like a dormant volcano simmering and subsiding till the children also become independent and the mother has time on hands. Time to sit back and think and contemplate over the bygone years and life spent. The whole problem surfaces at this age, somewhere between 35-45, where everything seems alien and too many confusing questions crop in the woman’s mind. In a different perspective, it must be the same for the men folk too; I will talk about them some other time. Here I am talking about the feminine gender alone.


The pivot

Women- The pivot

Women are the pivot or the centre to which the spokes forming the different events, relationships and happenings of life are attached. Though the father or the male figure is the provider it is the mother who maintains or manages the provision and the provider too. Without the centre there is no wheel at all and consequentially no wheel of life even, it becomes a disjointed series of events and a very erratic rise and fall in the life graph. It is the mother, wife, woman who removes the emotional hurdles and irons the frayed nerves in the family. She can make it or break it, it works both ways. A woman who knows her self-worth and potential contributes positively to the family and consequentially to the society at large. The presence of the woman at home is irreplaceable and trying to turn a blind eye to this verity is futile. It augments to the imbalance in nature and causes debacles. The woman needs to wake up to this call and seek her role where she truly belongs.

What is happening in the virtual world is the contrast. Women have not even touched the tip of the iceberg as far as exploring their real potential and self worth goes. These days most of the upper middleclass women are working women. They are trying to match each stride with their male counterpart and help them shoulder to shoulder. They are equally educated and are trying to climb the corporate with the same speed. They make all adjustments for work and have pushed family and home to the back seat. They are unhappy being housewives and feel as if it is a waste of their education and life itself. The impact of this is visible in the children though. They are bereft of parental presence and the family structure has disintegrated visibly. Nuclear family set aside, these days it is maid oriented families and the dependence on maids, crèches and day care centers is rather alarming. The woman who is a force to reckon with at home is wasting it all on the society and leaving the home in dark. Result is the increase in divorce rates, single parenting fad and the rampant rise in miscreant children.

An empowered woman is one who can identify her role, like the needle in the weighing machine. On the one side is the home, the other side is the society , to maintain balance between the two we need the woman or the pointer which tells us which side weighs more and needs to adjusted to bring about equilibrium. She has to manage both, from her end and not get too immersed in either role; else she will cause an imbalance and tilt the scales!