Self-Awareness

what is discipline?

The simple dictionary meaning of this word is “a set or system of rules and regulations.” and “punishment inflicted by way of correction and training.”

Both the meanings look grim and unhappy, don’t they? The meanings imply that you must behave, else be prepared for punishment. That is what discipline is all about. Is this really what being disciplined means?

We often hear our parents saying ‘don’t do this!!’ ‘Don’t go there’

‘Do this, or  …’ why is it always a string of no, no, no and no’s only?

Then how will the child know? What is to be done really? Think and understand the right and wrong? The child has already a rule book in front of him/ her. So the scope of exploring and of learning and thinking and experimenting are gone. He / she have to be disciplined, follow the rule. Else be punished by the elders. And in return what the older child may end up doing? Putting the same rule book under the younger sibling and behave exactly the way the parents behave!!!

What are we teaching the child here, in the name of discipline?My MASTER said” Punishment and the fear of being punished are the tools for bringing about this odd form of discipline.

“If you do not do as I say, you will get a beating”

“If you do not follow the commands of GOD, you will go to hell”

But, as we are told what NOT to do, and not what to do, we become pregnant with guilt.

How to overcome this weakness? How to unite this life while it is still living? Unite it with the ideal? No answer!!”

We are full of fear of doing the wrong and not being able to live up to the expectations of the rule book, we are too burdened and cannot think about what it was that we really should be doing?

It is but human to break rules, when they are forced upon us in the form of restrictions and prohibitions. It is seen everywhere. If a child is beaten to behave nicely to the younger, he will in his turn give it on to someone else—more likely to his younger sister or brother.

Instead of being given the freedom to make mistakes, learn from them, correct them and out grow them, we force this disciplinary stuff on ourselves. We dare not cross the lines for the fear of unknown and so we remain a coward and ignorant than ever before.

Rules made for army and institutions are very different from the rules imposed on us in our day to day life. Rules are not meant to rob us of ourselves. They are meant to help us understand the self better. And if we know what to do, and how to do, then mistakes and rule breaking may not occur at all. When things are forced and work against our will, rule breaking and indiscipline tend to occur. Else rules are not needed at all.

Now we are clueless about what to do –they do not give the slightest suggestion of how to evolve into that state where the principles of GOD are followed by heart.

What could have been a blooming openness towards a life of simple righteousness has become a closed – up jail of fear and supposition.

My Master voiced this with concern “Discipline has become a matter of sinning in secret, while keeping a suspicious eye on your neighbor. I believe that this negative approach to life is much deeper rooted in our hearts than we normally think.”How to be disciplined or rather lead simple life without having to worry about rule making and rule breaking? Is it possible that we are told what to do, instead of being told what not to do?

It is better if we punish ourselves for a wrong (according to us) done by our progeny, instead of inflicting punishment on the children? How to make the child grow without fear?

Discipline has unfortunately become synonymous with fear; it should have been the synonym for freedom. Discipline is meant to free us from everything.  We become regular, simple, goal oriented, focused and successful in life with discipline.