Fat? am I really?

Then-

Like everyone else I also used to try and stay thin or shed the excess weight, I thought I had gained. My better half is also on the round side, so both of us have left nothing to chance. You name it and we have tried it. He keeps experimenting with Yoga, then regularly going to the gymnasium for exercising, try Atkinson’s diet, leave smoking, alcohol for 3month tenure, totally avoid carbohydrate intake, I am forgetting what else he has tried. Unfortunately, the result has always been the same. He loses barely 5-10 kilos then he relaxes and is in no time fighting the battle of bulge again. This has been so for the last 16 years of my married life. These days he is battling with himself to get a surgery done or joining the VLCC slimming program. Apart for the smoking and alcohol, which I luckily don’t indulge in, even I have participated in the rest of the mad regime along with my better half.

As a child I used to be very chubby; not just chubby, I almost bordered on obesity. My mother could barely carry me for 8-10 minutes at a stretch. After that her arm used swell and she would be forced to put me down. When we used to visit or meet someone new, the visitors always used to guess my age wrong. When I was 6 months I used to look almost 9-10 months and weighed about 12kilos already! I was born some 4-25kgs and looked a 2+ month baby on that day. As I grew up I realized that I was doomed to be a fat, no, a pleasantly plump woman. This never bothered me though. I used happily eat clarified butter and luxuriate in rich food. Growing up to be a fat woman was a long way ahead and I was not going to spoil my childhood trying to lose weight. During my growing up years I used to fall sick, lose weight, then eat like glutton become round again. Looking thin was a mere dream for me. I did put in a lot of effort to stay just that, nice and chubby, till I got married.

Fat me

chubby baby

now

Then, I had to undergo two surgeries; both my kids are C-section babies. Both the times I put on a lot of weight (10-15 kilos) and both times, by the time the kids completed their first year I was back to my usual weight, the nice and chubby kinds. So, magically I stayed pretty much on the bordering fat side of my weighing machine. Don’t know where and how my excess fat disappeared and how all the clarified butter melted. This is for the entire tense women who are desperately becoming anorexic. I am glad I retained my curves, because curves suit us, well-endowed is what we look because of these curves and small bulgesJ. And till date, I am 43 today, I am not fat. I think of myself as being correct!, having the right curves ,a little more endowed than the rest of the woman , maybe, but very satisfactorily thin and nice. So, being a healthy child and being doomed to obesity is a myth proven by my firsthand experience.

In case, the reader feels that, I am freak, fluke lucky case, I will attach my daughter’s pictures too. She also was a very – very heavy, healthy baby, and she was never sick. Today she is eight and has naturally lost all her puppy fat. She looks healthy radiant and lovely. She will turn 8 in a few months and looks a picture of perfect health. She has not an extra ounce of fat etc., and yet is round and very appealing.

Looking thin or fat has more to do with the bone structure of the individual, and less to do with the mass of the individual. Look at any movie star, if she or he has a narrow long face, that person automatically looks thin or rather never looks fat. A person with a round face will naturally look round, how can you look anything but round if you have that bone structure? Even if you fast, you may faint and need to be hospitalized but you will still look round. My elder sister and I are the same height, she weighs more than me and I always end up being asked to shed a few kilos, and she on the other hand is forever asked to put on a few kilos. She has a broad bone structure and a long face, I am a perfect round. Whatever we both do these basics cannot be changed. I find it very amusing now, earlier it was insulting.

In India thin is not in, curvaceous women are more appealing than the stick thin genre. As for the men, I can only say what my husband repeatedly tells me, ‘As long as I am able to look down and see my toes, I am comfortably healthy, beyond that I am fat!’ So gentlemen, please keeping your toes in sight, always.